The Straight-Up Truth: Why He Treats You Like Crap

Let’s get something out of the way: I’m not describing physically abusive/violent relationships. . If you find yourself in violent relationship — leave. Period. End. The relationships I’m discussing are not physically abusive, but most definitely damaging. They keep you guessing — leaving you muttering to yourself: “It wasn’t always this way, was it?” No, it wasn’t always . Your guy does treat you right sometimes. But now that your feelings are out in the open, he has changed. . It leaves you asking yourself some ugly questions: “What did I do wrong? What’s wrong with me? What did I do to make him change?” A reality check: You didn’t make him change. Without a weapon, no one has the power to make someone do anything they don’t want. This leaves one explanation: He is choosing to act this way. And not only is he choosing it … you are allowing and enabling it. Here’s the harsh truth: People can only treat you in ways you allow.. People are treated in ways they don’t like because: 1) On occasion, they receive the love they want, and they put up with poor behavior the rest of the time to get a crumb of love at some point in the future; or 2) Their self-esteem is so low, they feel (consciously or subconsciously) that this is “all” they are going to get. It’s all they deserve. If you put up with bad treatment, you are showing your partner that you don’t respect yourself. If you’ve communicated your needs and he refuses to act or alter his treatment of you, sometimes the only way out of the cycle is, well, OUT. Move on to someone who will treat you like a treasure. And by “someone”, I don’t mean a new relationship … I mean move on to YOU. Self-worth and self-esteem emanate from SELF. Start with you. Respect and value yourself, and everyone around you will have no choice but to follow your lead.